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Securty and character in raising kids

Many of parents work to provide their kid a roof over their head and food on their table.

But still sometimes this produces an adult that isnt ready for the world, or is resentful of their parents. I want to put forward the idea you can raise a kid with all safety and overabundance, but this often results in forgetting the important task of imparting character.

Of course its a good thing to provide security for your kid. And even more so to let them live in abundance, even if only a little.

But when you rely on the world to build up your kids character, it wont be the way you hope.

There is an idea that all a parent owes their kid is the roof and food, and consequently a quick boot out the front door at birthday #18. But food and board do not teach morals and virtues. The morals and virtues taught by the world will be done poorly or inefficiently. What is consequently built will be irrational, immature, and neurotic.

The Karen, the man-child, and the degenerate are what result, and the expectation of anything else is unreasonable. All doomed to fail at any challenge more demanding than their day to day.

Only patient and meticulous teaching of a child can prevent this. Proverbs 22:6- "Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he grows older he will not abandon it." This is a continuous process with clear goals.

At the end of the day, when your kid tries to tie their shoe, don't just yell and moan for them to tie it already as they should know how to by now. Get on a knee and guide them. Do this with all challenges they face, leaving room for them to work and learn through it themselves.

The children that result will become adults that are capable of overcoming inevitable challenges in a healthy manner. And they will be much less likely to squander the legacy you have worked to leave them.